Mar 17, 2009 3:03 PM GMT
do you have any mantras that go against conventional, best-selling self-helpers?
as gay men, conditioned to be progressive, we mentally/spiritually run away from provincial notions, for the sake of 'escaping' an unflattering past, only casually questioning where it is exactly we're running to, because a self-help guru's book, for only $9.95, told us that it's good for us.
of course, many times, the flight is justified (fag-hating dad, unglamorous neighbors, no pinkberry within 3 blocks of residence)
but sometimes, in order to sell a book, many of our 'helper$' tell us to run without dealing with issues at home, never to look back, when sometimes the best lessons learned are in those un-haute locales.
for me one mantra is, if it temporarily makes me miserable..it's probably good for me; i.e. spending a saturday night reading legal language on a refinance packet when i already trust my lawyer, going out with coworkers which may or may not lead to a promotion, even though housewives of new york city is on.
do you have any that go against the grain?
as gay men, conditioned to be progressive, we mentally/spiritually run away from provincial notions, for the sake of 'escaping' an unflattering past, only casually questioning where it is exactly we're running to, because a self-help guru's book, for only $9.95, told us that it's good for us.
of course, many times, the flight is justified (fag-hating dad, unglamorous neighbors, no pinkberry within 3 blocks of residence)
but sometimes, in order to sell a book, many of our 'helper$' tell us to run without dealing with issues at home, never to look back, when sometimes the best lessons learned are in those un-haute locales.
for me one mantra is, if it temporarily makes me miserable..it's probably good for me; i.e. spending a saturday night reading legal language on a refinance packet when i already trust my lawyer, going out with coworkers which may or may not lead to a promotion, even though housewives of new york city is on.
do you have any that go against the grain?