USING THE IGNORE/ BLOCK OPTION

  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 17149

    Apr 20, 2021 2:05 PM GMT
    So as a longtime member of this site, I've been able to see how RJ has grown and now contracted (significantly).
    I have a number of great friends I've met, talked to on the phone, chat with regularly from the US, Canada and other
    countries. It has been one of the best experiences for meeting others with different backgrounds, views and life
    experience. I can say, I've gained a real appreciation for others, their views and ideas. For those of you who are
    new to RJ, just know there is a reason why Realjock has been here since 2006. It is a great site for not only fitness,
    but some great discussion with many other quality gay men.

    We've always had disagreements on this site. The political section has always been a n interesting place.
    Disagreements can develop among members for a variety of reasons. RJ has had a few members
    over the years that seemed enjoy the "art" of picking at others. Fortunately those few are long gone.

    I've never used the "block/ ignore" button. I'm mostly middle of the road, I'm moderate in terms of my
    politics. I have friends with whom I disagree politically (but still share an appreciation of them as people).
    You never know what you might learn if you have an open mind, have the right kind of attitude and flexible.
    I don't know how many times I hear someone say, I've had them on ignore" (or blocked). I just rolled my eyes.
    I mean, I don't make negative comments to people unless strongly encouraged to do so and think about it a minute.
    The negative energy, the misunderstandings, how it might make you feel. Better to just move on.

    The recent issue with the "BrianRoxx" character made me rethink that. While we have always had disagreements,
    the general look of discussion here has really gone downhill.
    Negative political discussion spills out onto the "All things Gay" area, Petty discussion seems to erupt all over at times.
    Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than" or you just have a personal
    issue, do yourself a favor and hit the "ignore" button.

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Just utilize the "block" feature.

    So, I intend to take my own advice and for the first time, the ignore/ block feature will
    be used. Make your conversations healthy and as positive as you can.


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    Apr 20, 2021 2:40 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than"




    Translation: "Sad or Angry Approach" being an opinion voiced passionately by someone that you don't agree with.

    "Nasty personal comment"? Would that be like calling someone a "cultist" simply because their political leanings don't agree with yours?

    And, by all means, do tell us WHO here do you deem "inferior" or "a less than" from way up there on your Throne of Sanctimony?
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 17149

    Apr 20, 2021 2:54 PM GMT
    CULTISTJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan said

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than"




    Translation: "Sad or Angry Approach" being an opinion voiced passionately by someone that you don't agree with.

    "Nasty personal comment"? Would that be like calling someone a "cultist" simply because their political leanings don't agree with yours?

    And, by all means, do tell us WHO here do you deem "inferior" or "a less than" from way up there on your Throne of Sanctimony?



    AND LIKE A "RAT TO BAIT" he comes..... he speaks in his typical narrow minded confrontational way
    and...
    To aim with your mouse or curser you push "ignore his posts" (done) and RJ life is much better!
    No need to ever respond again!

    He's gone for good!
  • srqdirt

    Posts: 527

    Apr 20, 2021 3:01 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    CULTISTJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan said

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than"




    Translation: "Sad or Angry Approach" being an opinion voiced passionately by someone that you don't agree with.

    "Nasty personal comment"? Would that be like calling someone a "cultist" simply because their political leanings don't agree with yours?

    And, by all means, do tell us WHO here do you deem "inferior" or "a less than" from way up there on your Throne of Sanctimony?



    AND LIKE A "RAT TO BAIT" he comes..... he speaks in his typical narrow minded confrontational way
    and...
    To aim with your mouse or curser you push "ignore his posts" (done) and RJ life is much better!
    No need to ever respond again!

    He's gone for good!


    Madam Cleo says.....”like I couldn’t predict the injustice collecting from a Trump Zombie.....”
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    Apr 20, 2021 4:31 PM GMT
    Any conservative ideology, God forbid someone being a Republican who voices their own opinion, is not met with kindness from the liberals here. We are referred to as "cultists", "screwed", "inferior", or the real kicker..."less than". Our opinion, genuine as it may be, is deemed "a narrow view" or a "sad or angry approach"


    Oh. The. Irony.

    Someone throw me a life preserver, I'm drowning in all the hypocrisy.
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    Apr 20, 2021 5:53 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidSo as a longtime member of this site, I've been able to see how RJ has grown and now contracted (significantly).
    I have a number of great friends I've met, talked to on the phone, chat with regularly from the US, Canada and other
    countries. It has been one of the best experiences for meeting others with different backgrounds, views and life
    experience. I can say, I've gained a real appreciation for others, their views and ideas. For those of you who are
    new to RJ, just know there is a reason why Realjock has been here since 2006. It is a great site for not only fitness,
    but some great discussion with many other quality gay men.

    We've always had disagreements on this site. The political section has always been a n interesting place.
    Disagreements can develop among members for a variety of reasons. RJ has had a few members
    over the years that seemed enjoy the "art" of picking at others. Fortunately those few are long gone.

    I've never used the "block/ ignore" button. I'm mostly middle of the road, I'm moderate in terms of my
    politics. I have friends with whom I disagree politically (but still share an appreciation of them as people).
    You never know what you might learn if you have an open mind, have the right kind of attitude and flexible.
    I don't know how many times I hear someone say, I've had them on ignore" (or blocked). I just rolled my eyes.
    I mean, I don't make negative comments to people unless strongly encouraged to do so and think about it a minute.
    The negative energy, the misunderstandings, how it might make you feel. Better to just move on.

    The recent issue with the "BrianRoxx" character made me rethink that. While we have always had disagreements,
    the general look of discussion here has really gone downhill.
    Negative political discussion spills out onto the "All things Gay" area, Petty discussion seems to erupt all over at times.
    Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than" or you just have a personal
    issue, do yourself a favor and hit the "ignore" button.

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Just utilize the "block" feature.

    So, I intend to take my own advice and for the first time, the ignore/ block feature will
    be used. Make your conversations healthy and as positive as you can.




    Thank you! When we learn to accept and tolerate people for who they are than maybe, just maybe we get along with each other. I appreciate your wisdom and advice. You, my friend, have a good heart.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 6:10 PM GMT
    Jackster444 said






    Thank you! When we learn to accept and tolerate people for who they are than maybe, just maybe we get along with each other. I appreciate your wisdom and advice. You, my friend, have a good heart.


    You are very kind, thanks very much. I hope we see you post more often, I always appreciate your input!
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    Apr 20, 2021 7:05 PM GMT
    I was never a fan of employing the ignore button as I was of the opinion that others with differing povs was healthy for discourse. That was until I ran into two bigots here. One who apparently became HIV positive due to anonymous sex with a black man and the other because he was just brought up that way. Once Art Deco, I think it was, mentioned using the ignore button, enjoyment of this site improved tremendously.

    That was until the daily ridiculous, inane, unhinged, natterings of a segment of posters with their stupid election was stolen BS over several months. I had to employ the ignore feature on mass because I simply could not anymore.

    It is one thing to have a difference of opinion and have a discourse, but when opinions are deprived of all facts and reality, what is the point? Having discourse becomes impossible as there is no basis on which such discourse can occur.
  • JDuderrr

    Posts: 554

    Apr 20, 2021 7:05 PM GMT
    Of course I could use the "Ignore" button. But the real reason I'm saddened and discouraged doesn't have to do with me personally. It has to do with how this childish behavior and these ugly attacks damage the RJ site and bring down the whole of the readership. RJ's Terms of Service are very clear--there can be no Harassment (of any individual or group) and there can be no Hate Speech. I don't use the "Ignore" button because I want to see every single example of prohibited activity and I intend to report it each time I do. Please join me, won't you?

    Report Harassment and Hate Speech to help@realjock.com and include the URL for the thread
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 7:14 PM GMT
    NEDC12 saidI was never a fan of employing the ignore button as I was of the opinion that others with differing povs was healthy for discourse. .


    Always good to hear your comments. I absolutely agree. There is room here for all opinions.
    I think criticisms can be made. When it becomes personal, that can be the problem
    (or people who don't want criticism at all).

    I look forward to more posts from you!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 7:15 PM GMT
    JDuderrr saidOf course I could use the "Ignore" button. But the real reason I'm saddened and discouraged doesn't have to do with me personally. It has to do with how this childish behavior and these ugly attacks damage the RJ site and bring down the whole of the readership. RJ's Terms of Service are very clear--there can be no Harassment (of any individual or group) and there can be no Hate Speech. I don't use the "Ignore" button because I want to see every single example of prohibited activity and I intend to report it each time I do. Please join me, won't you?

    Report Harassment and Hate Speech to help@realjock.com and include the URL for the thread


    Good points and well said!
  • Zachmn

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    Apr 20, 2021 7:50 PM GMT
    I on,y block ignore someone if they are attacking me or repeatedly harassing me
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    Apr 20, 2021 8:05 PM GMT
    I'm not one to shy away from debate or discussion... politics included...

    but when a dialog gets derailed by various logical fallacies... there's no point in continuing to debate. Further when the easiest fallacy that can turn to is the proverbial ad-hominem attack... some form of belittling the person arguing a point instead of arguing the point itself, that's a frequent reason for me to ignore.

    Especially when the personal attackers follow someone from thread to thread just to continue spewing vitriol in every channel.

    There is a fine line, though, between making the forums a more productive place, or turning them into your own private echo chamber. An echo chamber is an escape from argument and debate entirely by ignoring everyone that disagrees with you. It makes for a very one-sided view of the world.

    I advocate for ignoring the ignorant/ignorable users... I also advocate to exercise caution when ignoring, if discussion and debate is one of the things you come here for.
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    Apr 20, 2021 8:24 PM GMT
    JonSpringon said

    There is a fine line, though, between making the forums a more productive place, or turning them into your own private echo chamber. An echo chamber is an escape from argument and debate entirely by ignoring everyone that disagrees with you. It makes for a very one-sided view of the world.

    I advocate for ignoring the ignorant/ignorable users... I also advocate to exercise caution when ignoring, if discussion and debate is one of the things you come here for.



    Smart man...Good post...All true
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 8:37 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI'm not one to shy away from debate or discussion... politics included...

    but when a dialog gets derailed by various logical fallacies... there's no point in continuing to debate. Further when the easiest fallacy that can turn to is the proverbial ad-hominem attack... some form of belittling the person arguing a point instead of arguing the point itself, that's a frequent reason for me to ignore.

    Especially when the personal attackers follow someone from thread to thread just to continue spewing vitriol in every channel.

    There is a fine line, though, between making the forums a more productive place, or turning them into your own private echo chamber. An echo chamber is an escape from argument and debate entirely by ignoring everyone that disagrees with you. It makes for a very one-sided view of the world.

    I advocate for ignoring the ignorant/ignorable users... I also advocate to exercise caution when ignoring, if discussion and debate is one of the things you come here for.


    Jon, you're a good friend and I appreciate your comments. Always wise to consider.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 8:38 PM GMT
    Zachmn saidI on,y block ignore someone if they are attacking me or repeatedly harassing me


    Haven't had much of that in all the time I've been on RJ, Zach, but I'd agree.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Apr 20, 2021 8:51 PM GMT
    Unfortunately for me I had to block and ignore some members because of their vicious attacks on my character and their endless condemnation of me because I don’t live my life exactly like theirs. That blabbermouth from Palm Springs, Jocked and loaded or whatever his profile name is the worst offender. The minute I permanently rescinded my support for Trump and the republicans in late 2017, that miserable prick started shit with me and started degrading my character thinking that I am a worthless piece of shit who should be kicked into a cardboard box under the viaduct. His whole view about America is outmoded and no longer meant to be and he thinks that the greedy undeserving wealthy deserve generous tax cuts. He went even lower by falsely accusing me of saying that he sent his dick pics to me when I said no such thing yet he keeps pushing that bald faced lie. Another one I have blocked is the narrow minded bible thumping screwball from Delaware, JockJoy. I cannot stomach that stupid backward thinking fool who thinks that the Bible is all fact when the total opposite is the truth. All the other mindless sycophants of the Mango Mussolini are blocked as well. I cannot take their blatant stupidity anymore.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 9:00 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidUnfortunately for me I had to block and ignore some members.


    Rob, I thought you and Adrien worked all that out. I like working things out. I don't like negative drama. Work it out if you can.
    I know you're a good guy. Always try and be positive.
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    CuriousJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan said

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than"




    Translation: "Sad or Angry Approach" being an opinion voiced passionately by someone that you don't agree with.

    "Nasty personal comment"? Would that be like calling someone a "cultist" simply because their political leanings don't agree with yours?

    And, by all means, do tell us WHO here do you deem "inferior" or "a less than" from way up there on your Throne of Sanctimony?


    Reminds me of when Chris used to talk about how he'd judge people with uncut lawns, as being inferior.
    So it doesn't take much for Chris to look down on another.

    Not the attitude of a man, with a positive outlook on life.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 9:16 PM GMT
    Gold_Star_Gay said
    CuriousJockAZ said
    HndsmKansan said

    Don't let someone with a narrow view or a sad or angry approach upset you, just hit "ignore"
    Never allow yourself to get angry when someone makes a nasty personal comment about you
    in the middle of a discussion. Instead of dealing with someone who you think is "screwed", inferior, a "less than"




    Translation: "Sad or Angry Approach" being an opinion voiced passionately by someone that you don't agree with.

    "Nasty personal comment"? Would that be like calling someone a "cultist" simply because their political leanings don't agree with yours?

    And, by all means, do tell us WHO here do you deem "inferior" or "a less than" from way up there on your Throne of Sanctimony?


    Reminds me of when Chris used to talk about how he'd judge people with uncut lawns, as being inferior.
    So it doesn't take much for Chris to look down on another.

    Not the attitude of a man, with a positive outlook on life.


    I do enjoy these little additions. I'm the HOA president of my neighborhood and we award a "lawn award" ($50.00)
    (rewarding one quarterly for their efforts), so yes, our committee "judges" lawns.
    It is very popular..... and I love doing it. Love any kind of outdoor work. I also write for our HOA publication on lawns.
    We have a management company and covenants. Should a resident not meet the covenant requirements, they get a letter
    from the management team (not me) regarding the condition of their lawns. Covenant communities are not unusual.
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    Apr 20, 2021 9:36 PM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI'm not one to shy away from debate or discussion... politics included...

    but when a dialog gets derailed by various logical fallacies... there's no point in continuing to debate. Further when the easiest fallacy that can turn to is the proverbial ad-hominem attack... some form of belittling the person arguing a point instead of arguing the point itself, that's a frequent reason for me to ignore.

    Especially when the personal attackers follow someone from thread to thread just to continue spewing vitriol in every channel.

    There is a fine line, though, between making the forums a more productive place, or turning them into your own private echo chamber. An echo chamber is an escape from argument and debate entirely by ignoring everyone that disagrees with you. It makes for a very one-sided view of the world.

    I advocate for ignoring the ignorant/ignorable users... I also advocate to exercise caution when ignoring, if discussion and debate is one of the things you come here for.


    Well said and I agree. I do admit that I have called a few posters stupid in the past -because they are, but after reflecting a bit, I realized they were turning me into some one I did not wish to become. Hence the ignore button.
  • cocked_and_lo...

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    Apr 20, 2021 9:43 PM GMT
    NEDC12 saidI was never a fan of employing the ignore button as I was of the opinion that others with differing povs was healthy for discourse. That was until I ran into two bigots here. One who apparently became HIV positive due to anonymous sex with a black man and the other because he was just brought up that way.


    You think you're clever by injecting this bullshit into the threads and yet in the same breath you claim how you, in no way, support the nastiness that has become this site. You are perpetuating a lie made up by northbeach aka splooge about me becoming HIV+ from an anonymous encounter with a black man. Although, it definitely would be plausible given that the black community in just about any part of the world is disproportionately afflicted by HIV compared to any other race. So just remember, when you're trying to slam me by regurgitating that lie, you're exposing the ugly truth about the HIV in the black community.

    You will, forever, be on my shit list and will be someone I will never respect when you explicitly expressed more than once that it was your wish that all conservatives contract the COVID coronavirus. Wishing an extreme illness on others which has resulted in death for so many people, simply for holding opposite political views to your own, speaks volumes about how full of shit you are. I point this out and this is why you have put me on ignore.

    And what makes you even more piously sanctimonious and hypocritical is how you profess to have a strong religious affiliation to Christianity/Jesus.

    You are beyond ridiculous.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 20, 2021 9:49 PM GMT
    NEDC12 said
    JonSpringon said

    Well said and I agree. I do admit that I have called a few posters stupid in the past -because they are, but after reflecting a bit, I realized they were turning me into some one I did not wish to become. Hence the ignore button.


    Excellent point. I concur. I'm a optimistic person and don't like calling anybody "stupid" for sure.
    I think battling away, arguing with others here day after day isn't wise anyway. I'd rather move on.
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    NEDC12 said
    JonSpringon saidI'm not one to shy away from debate or discussion... politics included...

    but when a dialog gets derailed by various logical fallacies... there's no point in continuing to debate. Further when the easiest fallacy that can turn to is the proverbial ad-hominem attack... some form of belittling the person arguing a point instead of arguing the point itself, that's a frequent reason for me to ignore.

    Especially when the personal attackers follow someone from thread to thread just to continue spewing vitriol in every channel.

    There is a fine line, though, between making the forums a more productive place, or turning them into your own private echo chamber. An echo chamber is an escape from argument and debate entirely by ignoring everyone that disagrees with you. It makes for a very one-sided view of the world.

    I advocate for ignoring the ignorant/ignorable users... I also advocate to exercise caution when ignoring, if discussion and debate is one of the things you come here for.


    Well said and I agree. I do admit that I have called a few posters stupid in the past -because they are, but after reflecting a bit, I realized they were turning me into some one I did not wish to become. Hence the ignore button.


    Reminds me of the days when I'd attempt to show the person, the outside world, sees me as.
    It would simply turn into a flame war, by the Devilcrats here.

    Now they wanna bitch about, what they created.
    A negative RJ.
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    Apr 20, 2021 10:35 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    NEDC12 said
    JonSpringon said

    Well said and I agree. I do admit that I have called a few posters stupid in the past -because they are, but after reflecting a bit, I realized they were turning me into some one I did not wish to become. Hence the ignore button.


    Excellent point. I concur. I'm a optimistic person and don't like calling anybody "stupid" for sure.
    I think battling away, arguing with others here day after day isn't wise anyway. I'd rather move on.


    Quite true. Arguing with people who make a concerted effort to be willfully ignorant can never be a productive way to spend one's time.
    I remember debates on quantum mechanics, economics, religion, the economy, the stock market, currency fluctuations, biology, various facets of gay culture, nature v nurture, religion just to name a few. Those were the times you could actually learn something from learned guys here. And even if you didn't agree, it was done respectfully and it still left you with food for thought and challenged you to become better educated on a multitude of topics. I recall several of the guys were in the process of completing their PhDs and a few had already done so. Those were the days...