Well, I have done it. I met a guy through friends a long time ago. Yea, it was risky, but it was the right thing to do. The way we made the decision: Weighed family, careers, finances, what each city had to offer us as individuals and as a couple and in the end, I chose to make the move (It was San Diego, people) and he made significantly more than I did and I was just starting out. My area was not a good match for his career, but his was for mine. So he came back here (flew out) helped me pack and we drove cross country. That I will never forget, seeing the country together. We lasted 7 years before two major events happened. My mom got really sick (cancer) and would not allow me to bring her to California and within a week, my husband got a ridiculously great, once in a lifetime offer (job) overseas. We were both crushed, about the job and more so about my mom. In the end, I moved back to take care of my mom (only child to her) and insisted after much soul searching for him to take the job (in Germany. Because of my mom's situation, we decided to end the relationship. Yea it was the most difficult thing I had to do, letting him go, but it was the right thing to do. He is still overseas having a great life and I am nothing but happy for him. I have been single since then (been about 14 years), but would I do it again with someone else? Absolutely!