Nov 24, 2007 1:05 AM GMT
I can't help but wonder what I missed.
Sometimes I wish I'd had a 'slut' phase
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Nov 24, 2007 1:05 AM GMT -
Nov 24, 2007 5:43 AM GMTI think i have plenty, but everytime when opportunity came, i chicken out. lol -
Nov 24, 2007 4:56 PM GMTTimberoo you aren't the only one. I used to be so 'proud' of myself that I never had it, now. I kinda wonder what would have been if I did. -
Nov 24, 2007 5:58 PM GMTI never really felt proud, just didn't seem like me. I've been in a relationship since 1992, so the whole internet hook-up thing wasn't there. I think I am socially retarded, because I've never been able to get the hang of all the unspoken things that everyone else just seems to understand and acknowledge.
I mean, I've had sex without a relationship a few times, but it's always been with someone I've known fairly well and it just kind of happened with us not wanting to take it further into a relationship. -
Nov 24, 2007 7:32 PM GMTYou mean you've never had casual sex? Wow. It can be great fun. -
Nov 24, 2007 7:54 PM GMTGo get tested for the clap.
Then you'll see what you missed.
Fixes any regrets very quickly. -
Nov 24, 2007 10:56 PM GMTbriarhawk - I think that certainly would
redheadguy - I've always worn a tuxedo or suit
I've been told in the past by friends that I am a just not 'that guy'. -
Nov 25, 2007 1:53 AM GMTSlut phase for me is not having sex with different guys and multiple partner, I still do those today. For me is a time when I am doing barebacking and unsex behaviour. About 12 years ago I was so obsses with barebacking and I do screw (toP) with some guys condomless, though most of the time with one lover.
I really regretted it. I have not take any HIV test so I am not sure my status but seem I no longer barebacking for the last 12 years hopefully I am negative. -
Nov 25, 2007 12:09 PM GMTThis is a little the grass is always greener...
or in this case the anonymous sex is always hotter
We are who we are...
do most guys have a lot of sex before they settle down
yeah...I think so
but hey...if you've been in a relationship for goin on 20yrs
good for you
I wouldn't give that up for some blow job after meeting some guy at the gym or in a club no matter how hot he is
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Nov 25, 2007 2:04 PM GMTYou missed drunken orgies and casual sex?!?
I didn't know that existed. -
Nov 25, 2007 5:07 PM GMTYeah, I haven't ever lived in a major metropolitan area, never been anywhere with tons of gay men around. I was 22 when I met my guy. At this point, I can't even imagine what it would be like to be single again. -
Nov 25, 2007 5:39 PM GMTi never fooled around ..but now i'm making up for lost time. It has been really good for me to do this....to blow off steam in a big way...experiment and deal with curiosity issues etc. that have bugged me almost subconsciously all my life. But in reality it is all in my head you aren't missing much. -
Nov 25, 2007 11:18 PM GMTyeah, i really dont think youre missing too much. i am over this whole casual sex thing, would much rather come home to the same person every night. when you dont remember your sex partners names, it can be depressing -
Nov 26, 2007 6:45 PM GMTI'm going through my 'slut' phase now.
And let me tell you... boy oh boy I'm having a BLAST! 
It does get kind of old tryin to find new booty every night but when you do... WOW! It kinda sucks too because I've met a few guys that have been BEAUTIFUL, we've done it and then you never speak to them again. But if I had the chance I would totally date them. Well... one of them... I mean I would date all of them but one at a time. 
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Nov 27, 2007 3:32 PM GMTIt's difficult to have the best of both worlds. It's great to be in a relationship, but sleeping around is fun too.
Everyone I know has had a slut phase, some longer than others. I think it's part of live's experiences and you shouldn't knock it unless you've tried it.
Lozx -
Nov 27, 2007 5:43 PM GMTSometimes i think that too... and then i think of all the people i know who have had them, or are having them, and how many, not all, of those people i know seem to just be "pretty pieces of flesh". No substance, no soul.
they seem to be substance abusers too, it seems to go hand in hand.
Plus i agree with what Briar said... going to the clinic to get those tests is a REAL eye opener. Makes me glad i didn't and dont have slut phases! -
Nov 27, 2007 11:40 PM GMTIt's pretty much too late for me now, anyway. I don't plan on breaking up to have one. When and if I am single again, I'll most likely be too old unless I want to be the senior center slut. -
Nov 28, 2007 2:46 AM GMTthere will only ever be one Blanche DuBois mister!! -
Nov 28, 2007 4:29 AM GMTTrue, I'm probably more of a Rose anyway. -
Nov 30, 2007 5:55 AM GMTSometimes I feel like you do too, Timber.
When I was younger, I didn't have the self-confidence to go really out there and pickup for casual sex. Then when I started being a bit more forward and being able to chat comfortably with strangers, I would find myself taking a guy home who would want to marry me in the morning.
So the quick "hook-up" as you guys call it, never really happened for me.
oh well. -
Nov 30, 2007 5:59 AM GMTLook at it this way Timber. U missed out on any free gifts like an std. I don't look at it as missing out. -
Dec 04, 2007 4:05 PM GMTI am 25 & have had 3-4 "Slut Phases". It Is Good & fun at times, but luckly i haven't gotten any STD's which is what you really need to stay away from!! use protection!!! -
Dec 06, 2007 3:38 AM GMTCame out at 24. Got into an LTR at 25. Dropped out of that at 41. Slut stage started then!
You're never too old for it!
Granted, I've found that it didn't last too long for me, and as I'm really more interested in making a connection with a guy, the hookups make me feel like I've eaten a bag of potato chips: a rush while you're doing it, but leaves you sick to your stomach afterwards.
Now, if I could just find a friend with benefits. -
Dec 10, 2007 6:31 PM GMTI never had a slut phase and I don't really think I missed out on anything. Sex with someone I love was always better than the few times I had casual sex. -
Dec 12, 2007 1:52 PM GMTIt's great stuff but it desensitizes you.
I tend to objectify men a lot more now that I have hookups...but I may just be a chauvenist peeg.
