Beards

  • Timbales

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    Nov 28, 2007 4:16 AM GMT
    I say go ahead and dance with your guy at the reception. The 'escort' duty was for the wedding. ;)
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    Nov 28, 2007 4:50 AM GMT
    ITJock,

    I agree with you. I'm just reading this now, but I was wondering how the brother could put his sister in this situation. How spineless could he be? Have they brought this up to him?
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    Nov 28, 2007 5:55 AM GMT
    i would do it for them, and then after we got there and showed the inlaws that we were "acceptable" i would then be myself and stick with my man and let my friends be together and if anyone asked, oh well, f*** them , course i cant stand my bro in law or his family but to hell with em. that way theyd get to see the wedding and not have to be someone there not xcept for the walk into the place
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    Nov 29, 2007 5:37 PM GMT
    I guess I don't understand the thread being called "Beards"? I know what a Beard is but if the in-laws to be already know their future son-in-law has a lesbian sister and she has a partner then how can a Beard be used.

    I say go along with the escort process and then just after the wedding is over switch back to your partners. I know being NICE to a long time friend is good hearted but I would not want to pretend my partner was someone else, even for a brief moment. I have come to far to be pushed back into the closet for someone I really don't know asking me to bring "suitable escorts". Wow, I wonder if the Sister will be allowed in the wedding photos with her brother?
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    Nov 29, 2007 6:20 PM GMT
    I was wondering about the brother. I suppose he does know, but could be rather intimidated by his bride's family. Well, I guess you can give one gift for the 4 of you, after all, you are just "escorts" so you shouldn't be on the hook for the gift. And the sister and her partner should only give one gift between them.
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    Nov 29, 2007 6:27 PM GMT
    It's your friend. It's your call. I think being a friends guest to a wedding is no big deal. It's not like she asked you to father her kid or asked for a kidney?? Yet!
  • Alan95823

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    Nov 29, 2007 6:40 PM GMT
    I think you're making a good decision to go and be supportive. In that kind of environment, she's going to need your support, really. The brother and his new wife may hate it too, but they could be going along with it to appease her parents, who he has to deal with the rest of his life.
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    Nov 30, 2007 2:00 AM GMT
    I've been growing a beard for about 3 weeks and i was sooo excited that there was a new thread about beards!

    Only to find out you mean the other kind! Oh well icon_lol.gif

    anyway, it's a huge favor -- i would say no, on principle. but then again i might say yes -- it's a party, so that would be on a different principle.

    anyways i'll post some pix of my beard. it's pretty sweet!
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    Nov 30, 2007 2:31 AM GMT
    ITJock wrote:

    Living well is supposed to be the best revenge, so I think we should all just go and have a GREAT time, no matter what. Our own Limo, the whole bit.

    This was going to be my suggestion. Be gracious, dress to the nines, enjoy the food and drink, laugh a lot, and dance with anyone who's game.

    Also, it might feel less like a masquerade if you arrive and stick together as a group rather than as two separate MF couples.

    For a gift, consider giving a DVD of The Wedding Banquet or maybe a few seasons of The L Word. icon_twisted.gif
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    Nov 30, 2007 7:44 AM GMT
    Honestly, if I were your friend and it was my brother getting married, I'd be kicking his ass all the way to Zimbabwe about now for not sticking up for me in the first place. Sounds like a spineless wonder to me... but then, I don't know him so I can't pass judgement...

    I think going for your friend's sake is a very honorable thing to do and speaks highly of your friendship. Good for you!

    On the other hand, I'd be dancing with my partner at the reception. By then, the wedding's over, she's seen it, the brother is already hanged... errrr... hitched... so what the hell? I'd even request a really mushy song or maybe a really sexy one to boot... icon_twisted.gif The most they can do at that point is ask you to leave...