DATING REQUIREMENTS: What are yours?

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    Dec 12, 2007 2:34 PM GMT
    Just be nice to me, to yourself and to others!
    That's all I ask.

    If you are a good person on the inside all those other positive traits flows naturally.

    That he's able to live my moods swings as I hope that I could live with his..

    Beware of anyone who says that they don't have mood swings...because we all do gents!icon_lol.gif

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    Dec 12, 2007 2:38 PM GMT
    oooh, my expertise if I do say so myself.

    The date, to be considered a date to me, is one with an atmosphere of complete interest between two people. From there it can go slow, and move on to taking on the world together before you know it, just different sides of the same coin.

    I prefer the other man crack a few jokes while I'm sitting there staring at his big muscles and when it looks like it went completely over my head he asks me did I get it, and then explains the punch line or says I know I'm hot. Attention is a key player in hitting it off.

    I imagine (HIM) taking me to dinner at a place still developing in reputation where everyone is eager to make a super big impression on all their new customers.

    He's smart, and likes to talk and be listened to and will acknolowedge me listening by smiling when I paraphrase(at every opportunity) what he's saying, even when I'm using something he said to hit on him.

    He lets me do a little bit of talking, about myself, about my opinions on things by asking me questions about current and possible situations in the world at large.

    After dinner we take a walk under the docks at midnight durring a fullmoon on a beach with palm trees and a few rocks here and there and sit down with witty remarks about the footsteps we hear on the wood above us, and start noticing the way the waves feel as the mist gets us a little wet and he asks me if I'm cold and I say a little bit so he offers to heat things up and I ask "what do you mean?" The weather is pretty warm so a few minutes later after talking a little more about ourselves it sinks in and I see him get aroused.

    From there I stand up take his hand and ask him to follow me, then he stands up and sweeps me off my feet with his arms and I'm a little anxious about being thrown in the water to feel what being cold is really like, and to my delight he carries me to more secluded place on the beach and I'm enjoying the ride. From there he makes a move, and I resist.

    I offer to either call it a night or go to a movie theater and see where things go from there. He recommends something I haven't seen and I'm all for it so my wish is his command and he gets popcorn, and a diet soda for both of us, one for each. Durring the movie he's quiet and I'm watching the movie and act like I've got tunnel vision at first when he puts his arm around me then give him a kiss on the cheek when he least expects it.

    Everything else is behind closed doors.
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    Dec 14, 2007 9:31 PM GMT
    1. Intelligent--knows how to have a conversation, can talk about world events.
    2. Sense of Humor--can make me laugh, laugh at himself, laugh together.
    3. Respect--respect for others, respect for himself.
    4. (I'll be like everyone else and list more than 3) icon_biggrin.gif Self Confident/Self-Assured--I don't want to waste my time trying to make him feel better, AND this means comfortable with who he is as a gay man. I am not huge into PDA, but I don't want to have worry if it does happen.

    Wow...no wonder I'm single in Minnesota. LOL
  • SoDakGuy

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    Dec 14, 2007 9:34 PM GMT
    Basically, don't treat me like shit and we'll do just fine.
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    Dec 16, 2007 2:00 AM GMT
    WOW! It's really hard to keep this down to just three requirements, but that maybe because I don't really look at them a requirements. They are more or less what I need to see in someone to keep me from wanting to dump him or her. (Yeah, I said her. I'm bi.)

    1. I need to be able to realistically picture us lasting for a long time and I don't mean just in bed. I always look at the big picture, so you should have at least looked at it a few times.

    2. I'm extremely honest about everything. Not to the point that I tell people stuff to make them cry, but if I know you can handle it or it is something I feel you need to know I'm gonna tell you. I want to know that you will too. (Trust me, I'd probably test you at some point. So you might as well be honest from the beginning.)

    3. Be here/there for me. When I fall for someone, I tend to fall fast. So you can expect me to get a bit clingy at times. When/if I do and it starts to be too much, let me know. If you don't tell me, I won't know and that can cause problems.

    Although I can care for more than one person, at the end all I need is that one person that cares about me.
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    Dec 16, 2007 3:09 AM GMT
    1) funny
    2) youthful (not in terms of age, necessarily)
    3) hot

    that's pretty much it as far as dating goes.
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    Dec 17, 2007 2:16 PM GMT
    No wonder you're all single.
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    Dec 17, 2007 2:24 PM GMT
    Hey Red - that's requirements for DATING, not marriage.

    I think Kansan has some pretty good basic stuff going.

    Healthy mindset
    Commonality of interests
    Good treatment of others

    J.
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    Dec 22, 2007 9:59 AM GMT
    My three requirements:

    1. Am I attracted to him?

    2. Does he share my sense of humour?

    3. Will he get on with my friends?
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    Dec 22, 2007 11:43 AM GMT
    Hm, redheadguy,
    you might also consider whether
    3) Will he get it on with your friends?

    Some might find this troubling.
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    Dec 22, 2007 12:57 PM GMT
    I'm pretty open except
    No crack heads
    No Meth users
    No drugs addicts (chemicals)
    No lairs
    and I don't like guys that are always late

  • ajlclimber

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    Dec 22, 2007 2:56 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidNo wonder you're all single.



    Thats funny.. I just looked at your profile and it said you were single as well....

    **ring ring**

    Hello.. Pot? yes.. here he is.. Mr Kettle, it's for you.
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    Dec 22, 2007 3:03 PM GMT
    Someone assertive I suppose. I'm really adverse to conflict (I think it's part of my childhood) so I'd need someone to balance out that side of me (boy, do I hate car shopping). I suppose a sense of humor that either fit with mine, or as long as he doesn't get offended by me, heh. I feel like most of my requirements would be him having to deal with my own shit, haha. I'd also say a average or better body, cause I'm shallow.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Dec 22, 2007 3:09 PM GMT
    We only get 3????

    Okay, hmmmmm...


    1) Has goals and a game plan how to achieve them

    2) Has a fun sense of humor and knows how to have a good time without drugs or excessive drinking (and smoking is a big NO-NO)

    3) Is 100% head-over-heels crazy about ME :-) and accepts me for who I am




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    Dec 22, 2007 4:25 PM GMT
    1: Have the ability to carry on an intelligent conversation

    2: Be independent (Dating doesn't mean being attached at the hip all the time)

    3: Kind hearted

    I'm gonna cheat and put in 2 more (tie for 3rd place)

    4: Be willing to try new things on a whim

    5: Have the ability to laugh at himself
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    Dec 22, 2007 6:21 PM GMT
    all he has to do is make me happy.

    i've never been able to predict the specific traits of any of my best friends before i met them, and therefore don't believe that i'll really have any idea what i'm looking for until i find it. there can be exceptions to every rule when love is involved.
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    Dec 23, 2007 12:15 AM GMT
    1. Sense of humor
    2. Confidence
    3. listener (Communication)
    4. Charm
    5. Clean
    6. Continually improving himself
    7. Honest
    8. Independent
    9. Humble
    10. Someone with integrity

    Basically some who does not exist icon_smile.gif, yet...
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    Dec 26, 2007 5:39 AM GMT
    1) Chemistry
    2) Chemistry
    3) Chemistry
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    Dec 26, 2007 7:15 AM GMT
    People are always talking about "chemistry" but they refuse to be specific.

    What exactly are you looking for? I prefer guys with more NaCl, but you may prefer NO3 or even H2SO4. Unfortunately on most gay websites, you meet a lot more men who need LiCl than anything else.

    But next time be specific.
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    Dec 26, 2007 8:25 AM GMT
    ok here goes -

    1) Millionaire
    2) Cultured & Well educated
    3) Reasonably attractive between the age of 32 to 40.
    4) and lastly - HIV negative / Drug & Disease free completely - no compromises here.

    but it still all boils down to chemistry... cuz i've met many people who fit the above requirements yet none of them floated my yacht..
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    Dec 26, 2007 9:01 AM GMT
    It seems like a successful man over many years would be my quality guy. He would be the ideal man. College degree, long term commitment, physically active, friendships with other people,
  • Kacey33

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    May 11, 2020 6:57 PM GMT
    My requirements:

    1.) someone age 34-47.
    2.) ambitious, adventurous, confident, good sense of humor, loves traveling, loving, caring, loyal, honest, humble & down to earth, responsible, self-disciplined, NO drugs, thoughtful, protective, intelligent.
    3.) good kisser.
    4.) financially stable
    5.) Cares about me and actually takes my thoughts and feelings into consideration.
    6.) accepts me & loves me for who I am.
    7.) Monogamous
    8.) fit (takes care of himself)
    9.) taller than me (I’m 5’3”)
    10.) romantic
    11.) must have a vehicle.

    I’m currently living in Waterford, Wi, but my family and I are moving in July 2020 to Dunedin, Fl and I would like to find a future boyfriend/husband in Florida. If anyone is interested, please msg me. Thank you. icon_smile.gif