Were you sexually molested as a child?

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    Dec 19, 2007 3:15 PM GMT
    I was, once, when i was... oh how long a go was it... when i was 10 and in year 4. I won't say who but after that i was constantly exposed to gay culture, when most kids my age had no idea what gay really was. That whole process i believe, took my own innocence. I believe that is what made me Bi, and that is why i don't believe being gay or Bi or lesbian is a choice, things happen to you (not all necessarily bad either) that make you who you are, you don't choose.
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    Dec 19, 2007 3:46 PM GMT
    No, THANK G - D!icon_biggrin.gif! I had any sexual interaction with any of my family; although I had a cousin who was, who's now gay. It got weirder when his mother began 'seeing' her own blood cousinicon_eek.gif. Needless to say, I was totally ashamed by them and their sexual meanderings. I felt worse for my cousin. He's now got a wonderful husband in New Mexico. And I think my recent ex-Partner was either molested or knew someone in his family who was, because he defends those people's 'mental disease', and the 'fact' that apparently they don't know what the hell their doing. ... bullshit!

    I wouldn't have thought into it if he didn't have an keane interest in movies involving molestation in the plot, his affinity for young celebrity twinks, always watching those courtTv shows about molestation, and if didn't such a weakness for smoothness. I'd kicked his ass and left him if he turned out to be a child molestericon_evil.gif. It's one thing to be have been molestedicon_mad.gif. It's quite another to 'agree' with the Wrongs done unto you, and go out molesting kids like you have an excuseicon_evil.gificon_evil.gif. As you can see, I have a have a heated passion against the livelihood of those bastardsicon_evil.gificon_evil.gificon_evil.gif.
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    Dec 27, 2007 1:34 AM GMT
    i wasn't molested but i remember being in an uncomfortable sitation with an adult it was like my uncles friend. I was taking the train home from the city one time with my oldest brother and his friend we all sat in seperate seats from each other and i see my uncles friend i just said hi then he came over to sit in my seat and kept flicking me with his finger and had this look of a child molester in his face he was giving me this creepy smile....i was like 14 i think
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    Dec 27, 2007 1:36 AM GMT
    oh yeah and he tried giving me a wedgie as i was getting off the train he got off at the same stop and he was like can i give you a wedgie and i waslike ....no he still tried to ne ways....i haven't seen him since that happened
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    Dec 27, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    If you are wondering if being molested can make you gay/bi/whatever... there is no correlation between child molestation and homosexuality.
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    Dec 27, 2007 1:43 AM GMT
    Oh - and to answer your question... Not me icon_twisted.gifroll:
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    Dec 28, 2007 8:16 PM GMT
    yep. and i knew i liked it since i begged for more. i was 7. xx
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    Dec 28, 2007 8:21 PM GMT
    Nope, never, but have dated several guys who were.
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    Dec 31, 2007 6:17 PM GMT
    No.

    Mental abuse from a lousy good for nothing priest when I was twelve.

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    Dec 31, 2007 7:19 PM GMT
    Also, how many guys think the are responsible, instigated or caused someone older to molest them in some way...
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    Dec 31, 2007 7:33 PM GMT
    icon_cry.gif1 in 4 girls is sexually abused before the age of 18.
    icon_cry.gif1 in 6 boys is sexually abused before the age of 18.
    icon_cry.gif1 in 5 children are solicited sexually while on the internet.
    icon_cry.gifNearly 70% of all reported sexual assaults (including assaults on adults) occur to children ages 17 and under.
    icon_cry.gifAn estimated 39 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse exist in America today.

    More child sexual abuse statistics may be found at the link below, including the citation of references.
    http://www.darkness2light.org/KnowAbout/statistics_2.asp

    It's a sound organization; I was their first COO in 2003.

    Hope this helps...
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:21 AM GMT
    Wow, Venice, they are some scary stats.
    And good on you, mate, for your work in the area. Would be a tough field to work in, IMO.

    xxp
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    Jan 08, 2008 5:58 AM GMT
    i'm not sure. I have some definite memories that would point to being molested, but i can't remember anything specific.
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    Jan 08, 2008 7:05 AM GMT
    So yea, I'm posting again....
    I've just been really depressed lately, can't sleep or eat. I have these horrible dreams at night about what happened, and flashbacks throughout the day. It's hard, I don't know what to do. I've tried counseling, medication, and writing out what I feel...it doesn't work. I have scars on my arm from trying to commit suicide when I was 19...everytime I look down I see them and it's a constant reminder. My family isn't much better either... I guess I should have told the cops the whole story instead of lies, maybe he would have gotten a harsher punishment. I miss family events because of the bastard...and when I see him...is it wrong of me to want to start beatin the shit out of him and not stop until he quits breathing? I know I shouldn't feel that way, but I do. I...I just hate him, why did he have to do that to me. Fucking 5 years old it started, I didn't know what to think. He told me I'd get in trouble if I told anyone, and as time went by he started telling me he'd kill me if I told. FUCK...
    I just wish I could go back and stop it from ever happening. A child shouldn't have to throw away their underwear because they are scared their parent are going to see the blood. What is wrong with people??? Sex offenders should have a way stricter punishment.
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    Jan 08, 2008 7:33 AM GMT
    yes, but mine wasn't as bad as others. i was like 7 and he was like 16 im estimating. i had blocked it out of my memory until one day i had a flashback. i still dont remember exactly what happened but i know he was trying to get me to do things
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    Jan 08, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    Well, I mention I was sexual abuse at 19. Now let me tell you another story. I ATTEMPTED to sexually abuse my younger brother best friend when I was 13. He was probably 8 . I was reading some obsene material and picture from my older brother book collection. One day I saw my younger brother play with his friend. I pulled this boy into a bush and then ask my younger brother to go home. Then I pull down my pant and ask him to suck it. Just like in the book. He kinda puzzled but refuse . Just before I attempted further my younger brother come looking for his friend and I stop. That is as far as it go.

    Some time when I went back to my little home town I feel embarrased for that little incident I have with him. He married with kid now and I really hope he forget about it or somehow forgiving me. Because I certainly dont have a gut to apologize to him.

    When I was brutally, humiliated and sexually abuse that nite when I was 19, it really a payback for my sin when I was 13. For folk who is a Buddhist and believe in karma this certainly true in my case. Of course my payback is 100% more violence then my little sin when I really not and adult yet.
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    Jan 08, 2008 1:45 PM GMT
    yeah i was, i think i was about 8 or 9 and a family in law penetrated me. i cant really remember and this is the first time i have wrote about it. he was about 10 -13. i remember it as if it were a dream. i remember the place, the certain things he asked me to do. he has a girlfriend and kids now. he doesnt talk to me much so i think that he knows that i know..
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    Jan 09, 2008 3:27 PM GMT
    Wow, this is a very hot topic. I'm a psychology major, and last semester we studied this subject. Sadly a lot of therapists do believe that being molested when you were a child is a dominant factor in being gay.... I'm not sure if I agree, but I personally have not been molested by an adult. The only thing that's even close is me and my 2 older brothers did that "show me yours and I'll show you mine" thing when we were in elementary school.icon_lol.gif Even today I still like to play that game with handsome men....