Anyone else getting "grief" from family today?

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    Dec 25, 2007 11:37 PM GMT
    I did all of the family events and ate as much food as I wanted.
    My gym reopened today at 3 pm.
    I am going to workout tonight...lift, run, swim and my family still wants me to forgo the gym, for "just one day".
    Am I wrong? or do they not get the importance and my "dedication"?
    "Merry Christmas" only seems to be another "tool" used to derail me from my ongoing quest of health and fitness...
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    Dec 26, 2007 1:34 AM GMT
    You served your family time earlier. Now it's your time to do whatever you wish. I'm sure you have EARNED this break at the gym. Go for it! They'll have forgotten about it tomorrow.icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 26, 2007 3:29 AM GMT
    Well I assume you live close to your relatives and you don't see them once in a blue moon. If you see them regularly, there isn't an issue, you did what you needed to do, now go to the gym.

    If you have to travel a distance and don't see them frequently, then I'd have spent the day and gone to the gym on Wednesday. I don't have a choice, the YMCA isn't open today at all, but I had a great workout yesterday and I'll be there tomorrow.
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    Dec 26, 2007 3:46 AM GMT
    In the beginning, God created Dedication. And all beginners live by Dedication and do not stray from its path. And God saw this as good. After a while tho, Dedication must be put into perspective. Thus sayeth the Lord. But still God was surprised that the gym was open at 3 on Christmas day. God is still thinking about smoting them.
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    Dec 26, 2007 4:34 AM GMT
    Dont tell me you guys workout 7 days a week! Isn't that bad for muscle devlopment? I know there has to be a rest period... besides, It's just one day and there is no way of knowing if this is going to be your last christmas with them
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    Dec 26, 2007 5:25 AM GMT
    I did. My mom hasn't talked to her siblings for the past 6 months so you can only imagine the fun I had when I had to go to thier house.icon_cry.gif
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    Dec 26, 2007 6:26 AM GMT
    The relatives are all local to Columbus. The kids and I had done early AM 12 year old is still not completely out of Santa being pulled by reindeer and delivers presents(yes, it is kinda cute, but I think his brothers and schools buds are killing that one for him...this is most likely the last year that "Santa" gets any cookies/milk and carrots for the reindeer..sad sighicon_sad.gif)
    By noon it had already been a busy and long day! We went to my Brother's house around 11 am and did the exchange. It was fun. The food festval started at 11:01 and went for hours! (Are ther really starving people in the world? They could have ALL eaten today, too much food!) We left at 6 and I made the mistake of saying that "I am going to go to the gym and run off some of the food I have eaten"...Oh my god, you'd a thought I had just commited some crime against humanity! The boys and I left anyway. We got home and brought everything in the house. They went to their rooms to watch TV and were asleep in minutes...
    I went to the gym and ran abot 6 miles and did some plyometrics and band work and had a good soak in the hot tub....AHHH! it felt good!
    I had a great work out on saturday and sunday too! I normally try to put a complete day off in the mix somewhere and No I don't work the same muscle groups every day. I did take Monday off completely..had to do a "family brunch", finish off last minute shopping and 'Candle light Service" at church...the boys enjoy that. Besides, gym closed at 3pm on monday.LOL!
    "SMOTE"?????.....for re-opening at 3pm on Christmas day? A little harsh maybe...I know god has a "wicked sense of humor" and he knows where I have been and where I need to go...He understands if I go to the gym late on Christmas Day....OK I need to go to work in the AM, so off to bed now! Thank god it is over for another year!
    Hope you all had a good day!
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    Dec 26, 2007 7:48 AM GMT
    No grief from family, whatsoever. I always screen their calls for a week after the big day, which in my family is the 24th.

    There's at least twenty other like-minded relatives that they can ring up and k'vetch with for hours on end about what's wrong with every gift they've received the previous day, and who didn't say "Thank you" with enough enthusiasm, or how tacky the gift-wrapping of Such-and-such sister-in-law is, or how So-and-So's cooking is not what it used to be, or how pretentious (not generous) it was to have ordered a sushi course for forty people in addition to the other six courses, or how it's not like it used to be when we were kids, when they were kids, when their grandparents had a farm, the way it used to be when the great-parents were newly-weds and had nothing but clothes and a bed, et c. Maybe I ought to get someone to set this annual litany of complaints to music?

    On the 25th, I ring my closest relations and some friends to wish them a Happy Christmas, but I keep each call under five minutes – thoroughly impossible to do with my mother without making her cry, but I get better each year. I'm meeting "the gang" at the outdoor skating rink in twenty minutes. I gotta go now, Happy Christmas!

    I have a 2.5 hour rule that I've stuck with for the past year-and-a-half: Always have some social plans for after any family gathering so you can get away in 2.5 hours or less, before any flare ups arise, and with a clear conscious. Another time perhaps, but the others are expecting me in 30 minutes and it's too late to call and change plans now. Thanks for everything; delightful as always. Ah, I hear the taxi. Muah, muah. Ciao!

    At Christmas and other very large gatherings I extend it to four hours, maximum, and still make plans - last night it was Midnight Mass at the church next door. What's that? You want to give me a lift? Go to mass with me? Awww, if only I'd known you were up for it this year I would've gotten you some tickets. It's been "sold out" for over three weeks, I'm afraid. Next year. Ciao everyone!

    For me, it's the food & drink that makes it all bearable, but when it's time to go, no guilt-tripping is going to stop me where family is concerned. In fact, they still do it, but I expect it and view it as another opportunity to say No – firmly AND graciously. And I always have another rendez-vous to get to after a family affair.

    Anyone else here experience such thoroughly un-Christian Christmases, year after year?
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    Dec 26, 2007 5:40 PM GMT
    I decided to stay home for Christmas and not visit any family. My boyfriend's mom has been sick and was supposed to come down from TN, but decided not to at the last minute.

    This made my family insistent on me coming up top spend another cookie cutter Christmas with them, stuck in the house in PA. I really do not have many friends I keep in touch with and the holidays are usually a repeat year after year, so I did not see the big deal of not going this year. Plus I worked from home those days off.

    Well, I made one call to say hi during lunch and never got a call back. Perhaps they were busy. Perhaps passive aggressive. Either way, shrugged it off and moved on.

    Traditions are really not useful unless the people involved do it for the right reason. Getting angry that I am not spending time in PA is dumb. The focus should be getting together somewhere.

    as for the gym. Your family probably wishes they had an escape and a release to get them moving after big meals and tons of people around.