First thing, you need to become more self-confident.
Running around headless isn't something you'd do in real space (you'd die), and it's not something you should do in cyberspace. Come to like yourself, and the rest will follow. Common Sense 101. We don't need Oprah to tell us the obvious.
You need to accept that many gay / bi folks are way bad head fucked, and then be willing to sort through them if you want a keeper. With nearly 6.5 BILLION folks in the world, it makes good sense to take an approach that doesn't leave you with a lemon of a guy. That's just plain silly. You deserve better than a faulty model.
If someone is a pictureless, profileless, online, they probably aren't worth taking a second look at because the two things indicate much deeper underlying mental issues: low esteem, self-loathing, ugly, religiously conflicted, fat, married, cheating, dishonest, etc. All baggage that you need to steer clear of (common sense 101...this shit really isn't complicated unless you love a drama-filled life). In real life, you need to find someone with the same attributes that I mentioned above (self-confidence, appearance, integrity and s on) and that is drama free. If you encounter someone who is high drama, low esteem, "needy", dump them like a hot potato. There's absolutely no sense in fostering a fucked up relationship. Again, Common Sense 101. The saying goes fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on you. People often don't change unless they "bottom out" and you don't need that baggage of someone like that. You get a lemon...get rid of them.
While the approach of nearly zero tolerance may seem incompassionate by the fucked up folks being screened out, it will lower your stress level, and increase your happiness level, immensely. It's just like sifting through job candidates. A few might make more than one interview. The rest might get a rejection letter. A special group may end up in for a second or third interview, and the elite may end up in front of the board.
Relationships are hard. REMEMBER: set yourself up for success by ditching the fucked up (head fucked, high drama, low esteem, dishonest, etc) folks immediately. Not putting up with drama will help your chances of success, and keep your efforts moving in a positive direction, rather than consistently doing an emotional roller coaster. Someone pisses you off...get them out of your life.