LIFE BY SOCIAL ROUGHGARDEN-ISM
"Men see femininity as a form of weakness," says Dan Blatt, a PhD student of classical literature and log cabin bloggist. Although his web site (gaypatriot.org) drives me crazy, I can't help but find solidarity with Dan as he too is an animal struggling to survive in a seemingly wrong ecosystem.
"We're afraid of appearing vulnerable," he tells me, "in our desire to be butch and buff, we've termed such traditionally feminine qualities as tenderness and affection as signs of weakness. We fear that if we appear any less masculine we might make ourselves less attractive to other gay men."